Got your attention huh lol;-) Why on earth would I pick such a crazy title for my blog....stay with me.......it occurred to me the other day that both of these things.....breastfeeding and online dating seemed like easy things to do in this life.....like how hard can it be??? Yet for me both things have proven to be wildly challenging!:) I was raised on Pampers commercials, where the beautiful mother has her child, and all is easy in the world, the implications that there is an ease in feeding your baby naturally.....and I mean based on evolution alone right?? However I did not experience that with either of my children......Gabe was likely due to his prematurity.....I pumped for a good bit to give him milk in the NICU.....but my body was confused, and my milk production never fully happened......and Mads hated breast feeding.....yeah you heard that right lol:) She was the most chill baby, quiet and wise, but and when I would try it with her, she got enraged lol:) I tried for a few days, and had some other challenges surrounding it, and then surrendered to the bottle....and both times I felt like I had failed somehow.....because well it should be easy right? That is what I am designed to do.....and yet.......the ease of breastfeeding eluded me completely in this life.....and I have spoken to other women that found it the same......wildly difficult, and were surprised by that fact.....and I feel the same about online dating;-) SO many people.......SO many....... yet.........and apparently for some folks it is easy.......the guy that I went on a date with way back when, finds lots of women to date on the dating site......perhaps in a serial dater kinda way lol......no shortage of women he is willing to meet up with, and feels some sort of connection with......but I am guessing that it is challenging for a significantly large group of people.......the bios that men put out there these days have become more and more intense like " I am not here for a hook up"........."I will not send you money"........"I am not here for your games"......."Is there anybody real out there"........."Not here for one night stands"......etc etc etc......like LOTS of jaded rhetoric.....and it is sorta disheartening.......so many people, amid the scammers, that are truly single looking for either dating or a relationship.......and then the distance is always an issue......despite putting closer parameters on your profile, folks from Canada will come up......or other places far away......not too many local folks......and I have spoken many time about my faith in the plan for MY life.....knowing that when the time is right a relationship will come......however I remain open to possibilities......and mostly just scroll profiles.....not any real dating to be had lol:) but I write about it, more as a musing.....and as an awareness that modern dating is wildly flawed.....online dating while a brilliant conception, has sort of ruined it all......taking the "human" part out of dating.....just judging one another, swiping left or right......onto the next, as there are so many people on there.....setting people up for scammers, or dishonest folks.....and maybe my expression of this is a sorta mourning of a simpler time.....as I type this, that is what is stepping forward.....like the days of meeting people in person......real live people.....feeling their vibe.....flirting.......smiling......sparking something that evolves naturally into dating and a relationship......not judging a picture and words online.....and having to take such leaps of faith......so yeah......breastfeeding and online dating ......who knew ;-) Happy 4th everybody:)
jperuso
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