How can this be?.......have always wondered......now I don't......

I have been writing about the settling of the relationship between the three of us......and marveling at it every time.......I had always wondered about this as it related to divorce folks......Anytime I would see a person having a fairly amicable relationship with their ex's new person, and they all seemed relatively OK, I would wonder about it? I would admire it but wonder how?? Especially if there was some bad stuff that happened to get them there.......and now I no longer wonder......I am living that reality......things have settled between the other woman and I......we communicate when we need to......and talk when she is here to get the kids with him, during pick up and drop off......and yesterday as I stood chatting with her, I thought how strange it was.....or healthy, that I have arrived here......and I guess again the power of it lies in my mindset......what you give power to has power over you.......no question.......and I don't give the situation of "them" any power in my life anymore.......as long as things go well with my kids, and their visits that is all I worry about.......I guess also being able to pull off something like that requires you to no longer have feelings for your ex spouse...........I truly feel nothing in the way of jealous or upset feelings at seeing them together........or any of it.........I just feel grateful.........grateful that he is hers now........and that my life is different, and moving forward in a totally different way........so my peace comes from that place.......he is not my guy.......that is crystal clear......and so since there is no confusion that lies in that space in my heart and mind, I can't feel jealous or want what isn't mine........it is kinda simple like that.......and when you come to that place the only thing you find there is freedom......it sometimes feels as if I am observing a stranger in their relationship......the attachment that tethers two people.......especially two married folks.....is forever severed......both fully and completely......no recognition of the space we once shared.......this way is the better way......there is no need or value in making a situation any more difficult than it needs to be......so I am glad that I have this feeling and can do this each time.......sometimes I wonder what he thinks about my ability to do what I have in this situation......if he is grateful that I have made this so easy for him........or maybe he doesn't even think of it.......or care that I am gracious and kind to her......that is possible.......and it doesn't really matter what he thinks of it......I do it for my own mental health and for the sake of my children.......nothing in this life is allowed to rob me of the peace that I have found......and whatever I need to do to preserve that, is what I will do........so what I focus on is that God somehow touched my heart, helping me to find peace there, in this situation.....truly............I truly feel nothing toward it and it has been perhaps the biggest gift of them all.........the three of us will have other challenges to overcome, milestones, and things that will arise that will require us to be our best selves......and perhaps the foundation we are building will help us do that.....at least that is my hope.......I am not sure how he will behave one day when I am dating somebody......I am curious what that experience will be like for him as it relates to his children and the rest......I pray he finds a way to be gracious and kind too........but I guess that remains to be seen.....for now I could not ask for it to be going better and I am proud of the work I have done to arrive here.......and grateful......just grateful every day that this is the life I get to live......not my old one........