Choose YOU......

I was talking with my daughter....and she brought up this last situation that I had let go of....she had only met him in person once, and briefly, but had spoken over Facetime often due to the distance.....and she remarked the other day in feeling the shift, and knowing why I walked away......seeing and feeling some of what I was.......and that is mic drop magic!:):) Because not only was her intuition on point.....both of us being fans of his for so long..but recognizing the end of the party, and watching her mom leave on time....and WALK AWAY when her self worth wasn't being honored........no longer staying in places where she doesn't belong......and walking away from places that no longer honor the woman that she has fought like hell to become......and can I just say that is EVERYTHING....every move I make is for my kids, and because I know I have a daughter WATCHING.....and I do not want her to experience the things I have......and I will do everything in my power to speak life into her and self esteem and teach her to hold her bar high........and to realize she had seen the writing on the wall, and watched me do the right thing related to it.....well there isn't anything else for me.....and I am hoping she internalizes those things, and learns that choosing yourself is THE way.....in every way.....it isn't SELFISH! There is no rule or playbook that says that we need to abandon ourselves for others.....and twist ourselves up into a pretzel to maintain a connection.....we just don't......and we need to choose people that choose us too:) That choose to honor us in the ways we do them.....and I am still reveling in all of this, and realizing that I broke a cycle for me.....finding the key and opening the cell door......and I FULLY get it now....a good portion of that awareness finding me after my marriage......but the rest settling in within this latest context...... Giving me a practice test, and having me get an A in the end......but I have chosen myself in every way now.....I have chosen to pour wellness into my soul in every way I can think of, and in every way I am able.....and the results have paid off in dividends! I got another full and amazing night's sleep last night, and am ready to face the day! And I will always choose myself and my kids......and what is best for us......only allowing people in our lives that prove that they are, and the minute it looks like that may no longer be the case, it is done.....and I also have a policy to not have anybody meet my kids for a long time......should that arise.....this last situation was in my life for a long time. Being the ONLY reason my kids even knew him at all.......And as I type that.....I suppose it wasn't only a karmic lesson for me, but meant to be a lesson for my girl too:) She will remember.....I know she will.....and she saw her mom do the right thing....and may she do the same thing, Learning to be stronger than her feelings too.....not ignoring the pull to choose herself, and what she deserves:) And realize when she is being called to....AMEN:) Have an amazing day:)