Holding space.......

Last night was our third session for my women's series.....Monday nights have been good for everybody's schedules, but wrought with bad weather more than once......sick kids more than once etc.....so I have surrendered to it, and trusted it would play out as it should, and have appreciated the women, and how they have committed to themselves and the series, even though the consistency isn't what I wished for! The power that gets created through the series, and in my living room is amazing to me each time.....it is a space for everybody to come and be......and share what they want......and help each other when possible, but mostly just hold space for one another......we worked on mindset stuff last night and creating narratives.....shifting focus......surrender......and I am always amazed, amazed at all the pain that has come to find us all......and yet we persist........and have all found this place that acknowledges where we have been, and where we are headed......understanding that we didn't ask for these things to befall us, but that we must recreate our new lives......for our children.....but also for ourselves......and that has been very clear......our children have given us the focus needed, and help us to be braver......stronger than we want to be......but it is our will, the will inside of us that helps us all believe that we can overcome these challenges......last night I was thinking that as a society we don't hold space for people in our lives the way we should......expecting people to hide their pain......get over stuff quickly, and move on......feeling like enough already......and not honoring each other's journeys like we should......wanting life as usual to happen for people.......and in so many situations.....but particularly divorce and infidelity......it is such a profound blow.......like exquisitely......that we cannot expect that from people.......healing is not finite......it doesn't have a time limit or expiration.....it is daily.....it is ongoing.....it is all those things......and having somebody else validate your feelings.....especially when they too have endured it.....is powerful.....we all have a different story.....but much of it is the same.....and in that sameness.....and that space, we can see ourselves in each other......and it has been a very powerful experience.......the journey with these brave women so far......a gift......and I look forward to watching each of them in the future, as their journey unfolds.....cheering them on every step of the way......