You.....don't......get.......to.......

I think maybe everybody hits this place, in their middle age, where they care less about stuff that plagued them in their younger years.....choosing freedom from other's opinions and perceptions, and living freer as themselves.....and that is an amazing place to be in....but it still is never easy.....and I have had to DECIDE many times.....that "you don't get to"....to rattle my peace......to steal my joy......to fill in the blank.....and the initial jangle is always the thing.....when you are up against that.....or THAT feeling.....and you don't know where to put it....but then you have the chance to flip your mindset, changing the experience for yourself.....transferring the power back to yourself, realizing that power was yours all along.....you really have so much power in your own life.....and what you choose to let in.....and what you step over, and move on from......it is a choice......and setting the bar high for how others treat you, and your family is a key piece of that.....having loving and kind folks in your corner above all else......and letting go of the people that show you otherwise.....not with malice, just with an awareness of the kind of energy they bring.....but I think this "you don't get to" energy has permeated my experience.....I will not allow myself.... anymore to be treated badly....I have had enough of that in this life......and the buck and bar stops with me.....and we teach people how to treat us.....I have written about that so much.....by what we allow.....so as I said yesterday I am committed fully to my peace in every way.....a deep peace that runs in my veins, and doesn't get rattled easily.....or if it does get rattled, it is temporary.....I want people that have the same love and respect for me that I do for them.....period.....it is really that simple.....and while it seems simple, it is anything but......life is like that.....and recently I had a situation come full circle......there was a person in my life often, that unjustly was hostile at times, and disrespectful to me sometimes due to their own stuff.....a projection of themselves....their sharing that my sunny ways were uncomfortable for them too, we are wired in different ways.....and I finally spoke up, it was necessary, but hard....and then the energy intensified....but has since found a way to a lovely new start, with both of us having a fresh understanding of it all.....and that breakdown needed to happen for a breakthrough.....and I had to speak up for myself at a certain point....my initially letting stuff go, because it was so lopsided, but the tipping point arrives....which is often the case.....so while none of us like conflict....well maybe some people do;-) but most don't.....sometimes it is necessary to impart change and growth......and one of the things I have decided in this chapter is that I won't be quiet anymore....I won't unnecessarily say stuff, as there are tons of stuff I can and do let go.....but the stuff I can't will have a voice.....I spent years quiet.....and it made me physically sick....and it is not healthy.....and how others receive our gentle truth is on them.....as long as you are respectful, and gentle, and kind, I believe you have the right to express yourself.....and as you let stuff go, that is where it can come out sharper than you want it to.......waiting too long......I remain mindful of that as well.....but as I started this blog.....I end it, reminding myself and you, that our life is an expression of what we allow......and not allowing yourself to be treated badly is key, by anybody. You deserve more, we all do:) Have a good day!