I have reached a powerful place in my journey.....and perhaps I have been in this place for awhile.....but when it hits me it really hits me......and maybe people don't believe me.....or think I am "just saying" it......but I mean it with all of my heart......I am grateful for the other woman......her entering into my story.....and her presence changing my life in all of the best ways....in the long run......in the short term it threatened to shatter me, destroy me, and swallow me whole.....but in the long run, she freed me to walk the path that I am on now....freeing me to live a life I love, and one that has so much more peace, fulfillment, light, and joy in it now......and that is true in every sense......and I also find grace for her.....often.....knowing that falling for somebody.....even somebody you shouldn't......happens.....and the resistance of a powerful connection isn't easy.....I like to believe that perhaps in the beginning they were horrified at the feelings that were developing......and trying to figure it out.....but maybe not.....but none of that matters in a real sense anyway now......the fact remains we are all here......living our truth, and story in the aftermath of the chain of events that unfolded......and becoming friendly with the other woman for the sake of my children, is one of the things I am most proud of in this story.....especially in light of how ugly it all was at one time......and when I realized she had to be a part of the story, that I could not fight her visiting with my children any longer, I knew I had to surrender and let it all go.....and do my best to build a bridge between us....and to her credit she joined me in that.....doing her part to build the relationship we now have too......I think she realized the same thing.....and I have never showed any negative feelings about her to my children.....never......even in the beginning.....and every move I made was to protect my children from anymore pain and suffering....... I am so appreciative of the kindness she shows my children.....and the intention she shows when they are with her, for them to have a good time.....and those are the things I choose to focus on.....the harboring of all that happened in the beginning doesn't serve anybody.....if I had held onto all of those offenses inflicted upon me.......it would have only destroyed the now.....swallowed me up.....made me resentful and angry.....and I vowed early on that their affair had chewed up a few years of my life, and I wasn't giving it anymore of my life and time......and I kept that promise to me.....and it has changed everything.......I am grateful that I am not a resentment builder by nature, but even more grateful that resentment has found me in all of this....it would have been poison.........I focus on ME......and building MY life the way that I want it.....and looking for the beauty in life and that is it......the rest I have let go of......grace and gratitude is a powerful vehicle......even when you extend it to people who for all intents and purposes did the worst things anybody has ever done to you.......and I do not say that lightly, it is true.....but even then......extending those things is always worth it.....and I do not do it falsely.....it is without snark and sarcasm....I do it wholeheartedly.....and I am grateful to God for putting it on my heart to do just that......Grace, Grit, and Gratitude all of the way! Happy Sunday! Enjoy the day:)
jperuso
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