Intentional deception.....and the REAL!!

I have a naive streak that sometimes comes to bite me......I want to, and tend to believe the best in people, and take them at face value, unless they poke my intuition, or I can feel them being deceptive.....which happens more and more lately.....and the truth is people are deceptive and intentionally so......there has been an epidemic that as of late, my seeing people stab others in the back....particularly women.....and it makes me so sad.....shaking my head sad......we all have to be in the company of other people that we don't necessarily like......or have some challenge with, but we do our best to be cordial, and make it through when that situation is called for.....but lately I have seen people pretending to be one way, or genuine, and then viciously stabbing another in the back.....and well......yikes.....that is another thing altogether,.......there are far better things to do with our time than tear others down for sure.....or talk behind backs and it is not the best use of time, and really not a good look for anybody....and when I see it.....especially in a place I do not expect to......it gives me pause, and makes me want to retreat with my trust of people......I now seek THE REAl......in every place in my life......in my friendships....my relationships, in the ways I spend my time..... my career..... my relationships with my family......EVERYWHERE.......life is too damn short for anything else......I have made peace with the haters....alongside the rest....but I would never have them a part of my circle......once they are discovered it is time to move along.....and I am sure there are still some people in my life that are undercover, and not quite who I think they are......and that is OK too.....I will eventually find out or feel it and move along.....there has been a beautiful spring cleaning in my life during this journey.....a purging of things that do not serve me anymore, including people.....and in their place a lovely group of people have stepped forward.....and it feels good....good to be attracting the people I am supposed to, and losing the ones I am not supposed to have in my life......and I suppose what strikes me so is the level of fake somebody is willing to wear, to make another believe they are somebody other than they are, or that they are in your corner......I think that part disgusts me if I am honest.....if you are smiling to my face, and vicious behind my back......that speaks volumes indeed.....but I guess it is where we choose to use our energy....taking other people/s inventory, and judging somebody else's journey is not a good use of time for anybody.....that time is better spent making your own life amazing and making the changes within your own life that will make you happier and healthier......at least that is how I feel.....but for many folks it is easier to look at somebody's life and critique it then critique their own.....I have spent a lot of time along this journey changing things within me that did not serve me any longer, and getting real with the parts of me that needed changing.....and it has been time well spent.....and I have a long way to go but am closer every day:) So if you are reading this, I hope you are one of the real ones.....the ride or die ones.....the ones that support other people, lift them up, speak life into them......and try not to tear others down, either to their face or behind their back......I thought when you reached nearly 50 that would not be a thing.....but.......so cheers to the real ones....I am so lucky for the fierce, protective, sweet, and inspiring group of women that I surround myself with......that is priceless indeed:)