Take off that "OLD lady suit" RIGHT now! .....

I am hoping today's blog reaches somebody that needs to hear it.....so aging is a part of life, no doubt.....but FEELING old......that is optional......the way we feel in our body reflects the decisions we make.....and I can only write this blog because I have lived in both places.....during middle age......at the end of my marriage, I felt so beaten down that the aging process was accelerating.....and I was stepping fully into the "old lady" suit.....thinking this is what it is.....this is how it goes......wondering where my vibrancy and youth went.....feeling anything but beautiful in any way.....just feeling old, and tired, and not like me at all.....and I ALMOST accepted it.....almost fell for the illusion that was calling to me....having no energy to flip the script.....under the weight of so many things that there seemed like no way out.....and I get from his perspective that watching me lose my vibrancy was likely unattractive to him.....it was unattractive to me! He also wasn't helping me feel anything different at the time either.....summoning a different version of me, he was mirroring the old lady, but I do own my resignation fully......I was waving the white flag of youth.....ready to succumb to all of it.....all of the treasures of aging lol;-) And all I can say from where I sit today is that I am SO glad I didn't.......I had talked about this some at my last coaching session at the doctor's office......like don't give up!!! I want to run around and share that with middle aged mamas that have surrendered in the grocery store or elsewhere.....like knock that off lol:) You have YEARS of vibrancy, and vitality left if you choose that:) I promise! Exercise.....rest......good food.....water....taking good care of yourself, some well placed skincare, and you are on your way;-) But more than any of those things feeling youthful is a STATE OF MIND.....feeding your passions, not your fears is the way.......joy is found in not feeling taxed and resentful.....making sure you pour into YOU every day amid the rest of what is calling to you....and I only know that, because the distraction of a husband was removed, and that time was restored to me.....but I believe and have seen married people choose the same....making their health a priority.....and we don't have to FEEL old......we really don't......and I plan on embracing the aging process while also not succumbing to it.....this body is my home.....for the next 50 years, and I plan on treating it as such......taking really good care of it.....and using it to take me all the places I want to go......and health is not a punishment......not a restriction of what we love.....it is balance.....we can still indulge while maintaining it MOST of the time.....and we can still treat our body well most of the time too....while still living......and I was lucky enough to be shown the contrast....it scares me to think what would have happened if I kept going into that old lady suit......I hated my body...definitely the way it looked but more how it FELT.....and I hated my state of mind, and that is everything......so it is part of what drives my coaching with women.....is helping them not resign themselves to feeling older than they want to, or SHOULD! .....or maybe even more than that, showing them they have a choice.....so don't put that old lady suit on......take it off right now lol, and find your way back to YOU, and the essence of YOU, there is another way, I promise:) Happy Monday!