A gentle reminder........

For us all.....myself included sometimes......people need to be able to do what they NEED/WANT to do.....period........and we should resist the urge to meddle......or offer unsolicited advice.......or talk about what so and so SHOULD do with our friends......it is not our business......it really isn't ......I have come to discover, pretty fully, that we are all on our own journey......doing the things that resonate with our souls......and things make sense to us when they should....and not a moment sooner.......and some of it is in line with our journey, and if our people ask for help or advice that is different.....but unsolicited stuff is a slippery slope......and if we can help it, we really should let people be to do what they need to......I even feel that with my children......a small example was the other day when it was in the 60s.....both my kids wanted to wear shorts.....it is the cool thing to do apparently when the weather hits a certain temp;-) And I did not really think it was necessary yet......I mean it is March......but they both run hotter than the norm, and it really was something that I did not need to hold the line on.....their spirits were speaking to them, wanting to wear them.....and they both were fine.....:) We get into a trap of imposing our will upon others, and we really need to stop......if something somebody is doing directly to you is hurting you or bothering you, you have the right to share that and hope it stops.....but if it doesn't, it is up to you to move along......if you can't live with it, or accept what you can......letting people BE who they are supposed to BE.......and I try to check myself anytime I fall into the trap......hearing a conversation where somebody is bringing up somebody's name, and going on about some deficit they are showing, and what they should do......I try and reframe it, and lead with compassion if I am able in that moment and see it from that person's perspective......but I too fall short sometimes, falling into that same trap.......because really let's be honest......we are all trying to do the best we can in the moment.......with what we have......in my son's early years.....he was so fragile, and in need of such care and intensity in mothering.....and I had to hover, and do, and try and control things for him and it was exhausting.....and some of that extreme level of mothering paid off.....getting him good services and following through on so much.....but the season of motherhood I am in now feels better......there is an ease and gentleness to it that feels good.....I do not sweat the small stuff with my kids or battle those things....and they are easy to be around, and it is smooth sailing, mostly;-) ......and I deeply enjoy their company for sure:) So I guess my point is this.....the energy we use to monitor, and try and "fix" other people's lives, is better spent fixing our own;-) Happy Thursday:)