BAD people.........?

I have written before about my intentional flip of the word hard to describe a life circumstance, to calling it challenging......it just feels different that way:) There is another word I struggle with, I wince when I hear an adult use the word "bad" when they are dealing with children, not at school, but more like at the park or a random birthday party......like saying that was "bad" implying that that the child is "bad".......and on my drive home yesterday, it made me wonder about whether or not there really are any bad people.......inherently....I have seen plenty of people behave badly......like really badly....to others, and to myself....but does that make them "bad," or are they broken in some way.......a way that feeds that behavior.....and then you think of people that kill people......born that way.....and how does one explain that except to say they were born "bad"......and I suppose that is a whole other rabbit hole....one that I am not referring to this morning, or pondering specifically......it is my wondering about the people in my life, people I have seen, and felt goodness in at certain points, and then I was shown horrid stuff that lying beneath.......were they "bad" people hiding......was it my grace and love that made them look better than they were............. was I mistaken in what I saw in them......were they trying to be good, and fighting inner demons........was their past having its way through the way they behaved.....see so many questions, not many answers......and maybe it is as simple as people are not one way or another.....I think we all have parts within us that are contradictory.....and whatever we are heavy on, goodness or darkness.....that is what steps forward, and gives people the experience of us.......but no question humans are capable of doing horrible things to other humans......hurting them in deep and profound ways....I have experienced that quite a few times now, at the hands of people I have loved the most.....and so as I wonder are they really bad people??? Just bad to the bone, if you will;-) such a sad way to write a person off......and really I think that their bad stuff comes from a bunch of places....maybe childhood brokenness, but also from being selfish, lacking gratitude, entitlement, insecurity, shame, guilt, and the list goes on.......and when a person gives those things the wheel in their lives......well......it will lead to "bad" behavior.......I do think healing is for us all......and we can choose to transcend what has happened to us, if we do the work, the real work, not pretend we have........I have seen evil, in the eyes of somebody I loved that is true.....true darkness, but what I have seen in a flash in that moment is also pain.......the pain of being themselves in that moment.....like a wounded animal that attacks.....and while I won't give room or audience in my life any longer for "bad" behavior......I feel for people that are battling themselves the hardest.....it is tiring for me to just think of.......and I would like to say that love is the answer, as it is in most cases, but unfortunately I have found that loving a person with these challenges, won't ever fix it......no amount of love can extinguish their demons.....the work is their own......so as I have closed the door on all of these people.....wishing them well on their own journey, and moving on.....I hope they realize that life is a gift....and that the way we live it matters, the way we treat others matters, golden rule and all......and that the continual harm they inflict on others will just continue to poison their experience here, coming back to them tenfold......and isolate them more and more......and so I guess, even in deep diving this morning, I am not sure what I believe about "bad" people fully........even with my life's lessons in tow, and with all I have experienced, the stuff Lifetime movies are made of lol:) ......and my rose colored glasses want to believe otherwise......redemption, grace, all of it.......but I could be wrong....I accept that......and I don't seek to be around people inflicting harm anymore, on themselves or me......I really don't....... but remember healing is for us all, amen...........