Dear, Good Woman,..........

I listened to this podcast the other day.....speaking about the epidemic of "good" women being hurt by men.....and I was attracted to it, not only because it has been my story, but also because of the women I have worked with, and continue to coach......and it was empowering to listen to.....and I am not talking about perfect women......or women without flaws, and their own stuff.....but I am talking about solid, ride or die women.....good and solid in all of the ways....and I own that title proudly.....and unflinchingly......so this man was talking, and it all resonated....especially after my divorce.....and even though I was left by him, the rest played out exactly the same....he talked about the endless trying the good woman does to fix it all.....to be heard....and seen.....and making excuses for their man.....standing by him during his darkest times, seeing the good......and building him up......supporting him no matter what......hoping her belief in him would help him believe in him...........but in the end when she leaves or is left.....she doesn't break.....she will stumble......cry for weeks even, being so sad.....but she also spends that time in retreat or silence to reflect........and begin to pour into herself.....no longer willing to compromise her self respect, by begging or chasing.....but going deep, and then beginning her rise on the other side.....because a good woman is built on a solid foundation.....a foundation unable to be destroyed......just transformed and alchemized......and I thought it was a beautiful conversation that was being had......especially by a man......speaking of retreating, reflecting and RISING......and that is really all we can hope to be able to do with whatever storm comes in our lives.....to not let it ruin us forever......and I am not sure why there are men out there, and gosh so many from where I sit, that take good women for granted, and end up hurting them so deeply.....I suppose it is their own brokenness too......ghosts......demons....things that they wrestle with, that make them incapable of seeing the good woman they have right there......until it is too late......and that is wildly sad......in all of the ways......I have often felt, and said that if those that hurt me so deeply and viciously, could have seen the love I held for them inside of my heart, really see the regard and love I had for them, it would take their breath away, and be a valuable lesson for them too........but that is one of the human conditions.......being unable to always see the things we need to......and being driven by all sorts of other forces and factors.......but I plan on passing this podcast I heard to several women I am watching suffer.......hoping it will inspire them, and speak to them.......good women.....women ready for their comeback, and their time to RISE above the things that have found them! Empowering them in all the best ways! Amen:) xoxox