It can happen to you too......

Never say never is a saying for a reason.......as I gaze out on a portion of my life and absorb the surreal and disturbing details, it is hard to believe......truly.....and in my once upon a time life, when I set out to create human beings with another person, I never saw all of this....and never imagined a version of life where certain ugly truths are so.......and it is heartbreaking......to watch, to live, to bear witness to, to all of it......and it is a stark and harsh lesson in being reminded that it can happen to you too.....we somehow think we are insulated from stuff......or that ugliness occurs in "other people's" lives......but that just isn't so.......any number of things can come calling and make their presence known in our stories.....and it just is.....and sometimes when I talk to my friends about what is going on, and see their shock, it makes me realize this even more......I NEVER saw any of this when I set out to create a family with a person.....never.....and a part of me wishes I could be heard, to snap somebody out of it......but that isn't going to happen......I have made the moves I have needed to on my end to navigate it all, and now it is a bit of a waiting game......but it STILL shocks me......the truth of what I am seeing, and the truth that is playing out......but I write about it today to share the never say never.....and how crucial it is that we tread lightly in each other's lives.......we don't know what they are battling.....we don't know what challenges people face......we don't know so much of so much......we only know what they show us......and even more than that we could all find ourselves in an ugly situation pretty quickly.....I am living proof of that......the beauty can implode, or the illusion can shatter...... and the ugly rubble can be piled up around us.....and even down the road still find us.......so we should never be so arrogant or judgmental in our assessment of other's lives......never.........and I suppose in contrast it is a beautiful lesson in savoring and reveling in the good......when light and sunbeams shine on us, tip our face up to the sunshine and breathe it in......letting the sun sustain us in the storm.......so while I reel at some of what I am facing currently.....I continue to trust my story wholeheartedly......I know that the details are already sorted out up ahead....and that I need not fret or let it rob my peace......I just need to do the next right thing.....the thing that speaks to me to do.......and as long as I do that will all work out.....Amen......