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It doesn't have to do with you.......

jperuso

Did I ever mention before that what people do or don't do is about them?? And learning to take nothing personally is a superpower.....but damn it is hard sometimes, right?? I was reminded this week about this theme again, both directly and indirectly.....there have been situations in my life that have happened with others that have left me scratching my head...... still....and things I still stand in awe of.....and sometimes still at times....but we need to move in the world viewing other people's actions as a result of what is going on within them, and a state of their inner self....and well.....their human condition.....and I have found if I can lay my ego down, always......those things won't bother me as much....I mean if our heart is involved that is more challenging....or if it is somebody is really close to us.....but mostly if we just remember this important principle.....and I circle back to it from time to time, to remind myself and others....And I guess sometimes it feels like a balance between boundaries, grace, and having no expectations of others....and sometimes that is hard....because expecting ourselves from others is also a trap.....and futile....but we are allowed to want what we want....and seek what we need.....So I believe it is a balance of all three of those things....pushing and pulling.....what do we want....what do we want from the people we have in our lives....but the biggest piece is it isn't about you......it just isn't.....I think if you have lived for awhile you have experienced a hurt from left field.....a person you loved or trusted or had deeply in your life, just turn on you.....and when it happens....it is shocking.....but if you view it with your ego out of it....and realize it is them......you become free......free to focus on what you want for your life, and letting go of the rest....and when somebody shows you something ugly within them.....it maybe calls to us to feel empathy for them.....knowing that that poison lives within them......and the hope that they will evolve past that.....but really the people meant for us will stay....and love us hard....and we will recognize them......and the others will leave.....and we should be grateful for being given the gift of seeing what lies beneath.....and knowing who our people are when somebody does show themselves.....so we can move along.....Life is indeed a beautiful dance of hanging on and letting go......on repeat......:) Happy Friday! Enjoy the weekend:)

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