Love HARDER!......

There has been so much swirling as of late.....this new year, for sure feeling like a NEW year......and I am here for so much of it.....but what I am struck by so often, is the power found in loving ourselves harder......when we are not receiving the love we seek.......I have some women on my timeline that are up against it......wishing for a solution to their failing or failed marriage.....and the solution is found in LOVE.....but not like most people think.....loving somebody else harder, doesn't help them love you that way....I have enough life experience, and love experience, to say that confidently.....but I believe deeply that when we are not shown the love we seek, or are not feeling loved, it is calling us to love ourselves harder:) To take all that energy we are wasting, and put it into ourselves, and our kiddos if we are still lucky enough to have them by our side:) It has been a simple but powerful recipe that has saved my life....and changed the entirety of it.....loving myself like it is my job, because it is....a catch phrase I adopted, but mean so completely.....I have bloomed under the love I have given to me.....and remembering that how we are treated is not a reflection of us, but of the person treating us that way is hard to understand and remember....but once we do.....we can't unsee that either......and how we show up, and the love we give, is a reflection of us....that is all we need to know.....and loving ourselves harder is the way through, and around any obstacle.....I really believe that......shifting our energy to our own sandbox....not spending energy in places that don't yield the harvest we seek.....so if a client comes to me, and self love is not present, and taking care of themselves....that is the greatest place to start.....and watching it start to take hold in their lives, and absolutely change the landscape of their lives, is what lights me up......we should all be doing our best and trying hard to love ourselves harder, no matter how others show up for us, or don't.....and that is a power we have regardless of the rest.....when we don't feel love, we need to become love.....and radiate it to others, and to our selves.....love is the point of this whole thing here.....it really is.....and we can love from afar, or up close, or however else makes sense....but most of all we need to love ourselves harder.....and when love isn't being served, we are asked to love ourselves harder......and the women I am watching trying to find that, under the weight of being so disappointed in love, is inspiring.....it is not easy to have the veil ripped off of something you deeply believed in.....but......the greatest love of all is waiting on the other side......it truly is.....:) Happy Thursday!