#lovethatforyou

It is my new coin phrase........picked it up along the way.....conversely I also let people know that I also hate that for you.......and it has become a fun part of my language in my day to day....and if you have been reading for awhile you know the deep love affair I have with language and words......but when I say "I love that for you" or "hate that for you," I mean it.....it is kind of a silly little few words, but I believe it holds true power......I think that both phrases make another human feel seen.......and heard......and understood some....and well.....I am seeking to do that for others as often as I am able.....it is a free gift that we can give one another, doesn't cost a thing.....and I have tried to examine my love of language, it has been with me my whole life....even now my walls are adorned some with lovely vernacular;-).......and I have always found power in that......my dorm room having posters in it.....Having the poem "Desiderata", so many words, expressing the things wanted and desired......and every place I have lived since has found my walls speaking to me....and maybe there has never been a time in all of my life where I believe more deeply that the words we speak to ourselves, the words that come out of our mouths, the ones we speak to the people around us holds such immense power.......speaking life or demise into situations........and I speak to my class daily about speaking life into themselves, and not saying awful things in their minds.....or out loud to themselves.....and it is not easy to do.....to be mindful of what rolls around up there......or what comes out, but if you are not careful before long, whatever narrative you have spun is the one you are living......and well....why not make it a good one:) I have become my biggest cheerleader and ally in the last few years, I have my back fiercely, am my bestie and particularly in terms of how I speak to myself.....I have become much kinder and softer with myself and it has changed my life......And it doesn't matter what other people speak or do, I know so fully know what my story is and WHO I AM......that it insulates me from all that noise.....and it is what ignites my passion in coaching.....to help a person change that voice.....that language.....on Saturday I was coaching a client and she was saying I hope.....a lot....and we talked about the fact that hope is lovely.....however when we speak it to ourselves we impart doubt.....a piece of it that perhaps won't be realized.....and to be more definite in our language....like I will! Or this will happen......simple shift.....one word can change the game! So these days finds me loving things for others and for myself;-) even amid my challenges, and well that is always a gift :) So whatever is causing you to grin these days, I love that for you, I really do:) Enjoy the day!