Psychological warfare......

When somebody does you dirty, and you sense it, and begin to call them out, psychological warfare ensues.....perhaps it is a law of nature......it is most definitely a manipulative tactic to attempt to have the other person question what it is that they are sensing and feeling....and I have experienced it twice now in my life.....two spans of time....and each time I stood up to it.....knowing that what I was feeling was right.....second guessing some the first time around in the end of my marriage, but not this time.....and I write about this today because it is the thing that can destroy people, if they give into it.....and let those tactics work....and make no mistake, they are intentional TACTICS.......because the goal of it is to deflect ownership of the behavior onto you, normally using an insecurity, or some other spot that leaves you vulnerable....the tactic itself cunning....and calculating....and under the guise of lies and deception......and if you are not careful, or steadfast you can find yourself in a sea of lies.....and as I have said this last situation I recently faced gave me the opportunity to show myself that my instincts were on point.....verbalizing it all before I knew.....having my intuition sharpened, and speaking to my soul....saving me but still getting ensnared some in the warfare, due to wanting ownership to be taken.....confirmation of it all....but in the end not needing that.....because I was shown what I needed to see.....and that is amazing too.....the timing of that......as I was seeking truth.....and being stonewalled in that.....there it was......plain as day to see.....and in coaching that is what I seek to do.....to strengthen the mind, against the warfare at work.....some people having a carefully and crafted skill set, of manipulation and lying and all of the rest.....and your mind has to be strong to stand against all of that and not get sucked under.....and the way comes from knowing your truth.....knowing better who you are....and then fiercely standing in both of those things....in your authenticity, and in your truth......not letting anything change that....and the truth is, that the person that is executing the psychological warfare, is only at war with themselves.....having pain and horror living within them, and needing a place to put it....and unfortunately hurting the people around them.....including people they love, or have loved.....and well....that is sad.....and I suppose I should be glad I don't understand that, and likely never will.....and watching people sabotage their lives so fully is hard to watch......it really is....but just as our own walk is ours, theirs is theirs too.....and so working on strengthening our minds is the way. And my mind has always been relatively strong in certain ways....but it definitely had some weaknesses that I have been working on strengthening:) And I cannot stress enough how much fitness does that for me....making my mind stronger as well as my body:) And meditation! I have been meditating SO much.....and each time I feel stronger mentally in a way that is so hard to explain:) So this is a cautionary tale......people are out there, ones that are at war with themselves, seeking to use psychological warfare to cover that all up.....don't fall for it....stand up for what you know you feel.....what you see......actions not aligning with words.....and sometimes these folks feel they are better than they are at hiding it....and really they aren't.......all of it showing up.......spend the time strengthening you, and it will pay off in amazing ways:) Have an amazing Sunday:)