That is not how it works......

The more I learn about humans on this journey the more fascinated I become, and maybe a little horrified too lol:) Humans are capable of such deception, from themselves and from others.....and it is in the hiding who they are, or what they are doing, that everything falls apart.....directness, and clarity....and truth, are a rare thing in this world.....most people are not doing that with their people.....more comfortable to fluff it, skirt it, avoid it, or speak it behind a person's back, then speak the truth to them.....and it is my intention, as often as I am able to be direct and clear to avoid the pitfalls and destruction of miscommunication.....however that is not something a person can do alone.....and I know it can make people uncomfortable if they themselves are not direct, and it requires both parties to be interested in that.....and a tell is in watching how a person behaves in their own life.......we cannot expect the people in our lives to give us the stuff that they can't give themselves.....and if you pay attention to how they behave in their own lives......how they live, the quality of their lives and the relationships in their lives, that will tell you all you need to know.....and sometimes we have a moment of clarity with somebody where it all becomes obvious, their attractiveness to us and our lives fades, and there standing boldly in our face is the truth of it all.......and the reality of who they really are is standing there....and all of the above is why I am passionate about coaching......and growth, and changing our lives, and GIVING so fully to ourselves......because living in a state of lack makes us more vulnerable to trying to get our needs met outside of ourselves instead of going within......and helps us be wise about the people we choose to be in our lives......and I have spoken about the patterns that lie within us, and those being the hardest to bust if you will.....other changes are easier.....but the deep stuff is so challenging.....not impossible.....but it requires a willingness to get back up and face it and slay it again.....and one thing I believe I have finally learned forever now;-) Or so I can hope, is that giving more of yourself to somebody that doesn't appreciate it won't ever work, and it certainly won't return it back to you.......it will just drain you dry.....that is a standard human condition that is hard for the givers of the world:) If you are a giver you know what I mean.....the takers just take, that is how they are hardwired......and no amount of giving can balance it......or have it returned to you.......and protecting our energy is sacred:) I believe that......I have a lot of clients waging these kinds of wars.....and I certainly have too....quite a few times......and it is so important to honor our energy, and the gifts we have, and the worthiness that is present......making sure that when we share ourselves, or our time, or our energy it is with a person that gives as much as they take.....I will forever be grateful I came into this life hardwired for giving...it feels better I am sure than being on the other side......and it is always a delicate dance for me to observe folks without being hyper vigilant due to the trauma I have had......and so at each turn my life shows me better the healthier things and people that I should carry with me along my journey, and I am always here for it, and grateful for the lessons, even the tough ones or the painful ones. No pain no gain right:) Speaking of which this week I am going hard into my new workout! So excited where even the weekend will find me! This morning still finds me sore lol:) that is when you know it is good.......onward and upward always. Have some fun plans this week too, and am excited for all that lies ahead:) Have a great day!