When people do you dirty.......

"Let them" is a saying for a reason......I am not a conflict person.....I seek to not have it if at all possible, and do not look for it.....I also seek to reach understanding, or a place where both parties can hear each other softly, and agree to disagree if necessary.....and if parting ways is inevitable then so be it.....whether it be romantic, or in friendship.....but I have had some places along the way where I have been done dirty......like really dirty, and the script has been flipped.....and the biggest indication of that fact is the way I was treated in the aftermath......somebody doesn't need to go out of their way to be cruel and unkind, vicious, or avoid or any of it...... if they are in the right, then there is not a need.....they need to behave like that if they are in the wrong......period.......and if they know their behavior was not right......normal, loving, and healthy folks don't treat others viciously......there is no need......so the concept of Let Them has found my life....and in the places it has, it has been surprising, shocking even.....and letting it lie, and accepting it, has been my work to do.....we are not responsible for how others choose to see us, or if they create a narrative that is false.....that is not our business.....it is about them for whatever reason......and the only choice we have is to choose our response....and not give into the viciousness and dirtiness.....keeping our head up, and being kind, and moving along, and remaining in our truth......there have been a lot of themes finding me this week.....some deep stuff coming to the surface......and wondering about it..... And I suppose when they stuff comes to the surface it is good to look at it....I have expressed viewing all of that through a different lens.....perhaps my lot in life, or what I am supposed to learn......and I have learned a lot, about people, and their motivations.....I feel sorry for people who have viciousness lying within them.....what a tough thing to have to carry.....you don't have to turn a regard you once held for a person into venom.....at least I do not believe that.....I don't hold hate or venom for anybody.....no matter what.....I just know better now who people really are beneath their mask.....and who I should steer clear of ........and that is actually hugely beneficial......and a blessing in disguise.......once you reach a certain age, I think you know better, and more deeply how precious life is, and how wasting your time on anything or anybody that is false....and harbors ill intent for you, is not worth any time or energy.....I am loyal to a fault and once I love you it is often for life and so I seek to have that loyalty returned to me, and nothing less......and I really like that whole poem titled "Let Them".......it is such a good one......and so so true.....and when people do you dirty.....they avoid you indeed.....not wanting to face what they did.....not willing to step up, and find a place where it can be left in a way that does not necessitate ugliness....that has become my tell......how somebody truly feels, in the avoidance and the ugliness....and so today I wish those folks well.....and peace and healing.....and clarity....and for myself acceptance, in the knowledge that some stuff stays broke....and is meant to break.....and people are meant to leave.....and better folks are meant to arrive, I have found that to be true over and over.....the people in my life now, and the friends, and the blessings, and the support I have are second to none......and all of the people with ill intent for me have weeded themselves out, and what a blessing that is:) and if there are undercover ones, I hope they go too......and I hold fondness for who they were to me once upon a time.....and wish them well........but there is no place for them here anymore either........so if somebody does you dirty....with venom and viciousness......just let them, it is all good, and always for the greater good, I promise xoxo Happy Friday:)