Your ugly is showing.....

I have written quite a few times about the power that comes when you learn that what others say and do, or how they behave is on them.....not having much to do with us at all....and that is powerful because well people can be ouch, right?? Doing intensely painful stuff to us....... But here is the other piece that goes with that.....it is in the moment of witnessing their ugliness, or the truth of something that lives inside of them that sets us free.....a place we cannot unsee.....no longer seeing them in the same light.....and for somebody like me I always need THAT moment.....the one that takes the reverence and respect and in some cases a naive spot I hold for a person I care about, and eventually in one moment they shatter it....because when you are a person that sees the good, believes in the good, etc etc....it can keep you chained....like literally in places you don't belong....and let me preface this with saying that people are not all one thing.....goodness lives amid ugliness in folks, I know that.....for the most part....and their ugliness comes from ugly things they have experienced too.....I also know that...I really believe most people are inherently good from the jump, and then life gets a hold of them....but when somebody's ugly stuff is actively hurting you, there is not an excuse for that....especially when you share said hurt.....and I think sometimes when your energy mirrors truth for another person, truth they don't want to face, they seek to hurt you......I have felt that a few times in this life.....and not enough eloquent rhetoric will help.....because communication requires a willingness, and comprehension....and accountability and all sorts of things....and even if you are tired of how you are making somebody feel, it doesn't mean their feelings are not valid....but it is THAT one magical moment when you see a person you had held up so high for what lies within them....seeing what they are capable of. And your brain short circuits some....wondering how you can be witnessing what you are, not having it at all be in line with who you believed they were?? Whether in friendship or love.....and it is incredibly painful.....shocking even.......and I am not minimizing either piece, but there is something that sets us free when we won't ever see anybody the same again, our trust and opinion of them shattered completely......no longer respecting who they are, and we never know when that moment will arrive, until it does......and I write about this today because some of my clients are facing this right now, and I certainly have had my fair share of it, and maybe you are if you are reading today....these moments are painful, they really are, but they are merciful, truly, forcing us to release our grip, and stop us from holding onto people and places where we no longer belong......sometimes feeling like somebody is taking a hammer to our knuckles, forcing us to let go, so if you are facing this, I SEE you, and I am so sorry.....you have my deepest empathy truly, it is so hard to see somebody you love in a light that is so stark and blinding.....just trust that it is divine redirection, that is what I have come to believe, a merciful moment that changes everything......changing our path for our greatest good, and removes something or someone that really needed to be removed.......amen! Everything is always working out for you, even in the painful moments, believe that fiercely and it will light the way:) Happy Wednesday:)